Monday, February 24, 2014

How To Stop Being A Victim

"Stop being a victim and thinking that life happens to you. You have the strength to change anything in your life. If you don't like something then get up your courage and change it. You are more powerful than you think you are. To make changes in your life you have to be truly ready and willing." I read this quote somewhere and I really liked it. I liked it so much that I wrote it down and put it on a sticky note and saved it. I thought it would inspire me to do better.

Hmm....Sounds good, right? Then why has it taken me so many years to get to this point. Why did I insist on making the same mistakes over and over again without learning the obvious lesson to be learned. I believe it was the part about being truly ready and willing that had me a bit confused. You see in order to move forward successfully one has to leave the past behind. Not drag it along with you like a ball and chain.

Change is life. Everything changes from moment to moment, but when you are unwilling to move along and change with it you remain stuck. Stuck in the same place you were in ten years ago. My life seemed to be a series of repeats. I would try to be strong and change the way I was doing things and for a while it would work. Eventually though I would always end up back at the same spot again.

In the past two years I have gone through some drastic changes in my life. They are what I consider to be permanent changes. The most drastic is the way I now eat. I have not eaten much meat for years now, but I don't eat any at all anymore. I consider this a permanent change because the way I think about it has changed to the point that I am absolutely unable to eat meat. I have certain thoughts about it that enable me to do this without any problem at all. The other change is I refuse to do anything that will make me very unhappy while I am doing it. This includes jobs, doing things for other people, anything that just doesn't feel right in my gut. I have no problem doing something that I don't feel like doing as long as it is being done for the right reason. Such as, to help someone. I just refuse to be used by anyone.

The other thing I have stopped doing is feeling sorry for myself. Granted I never did too much of that anyway, but I did it enough. Instead of wondering why I could never stick to whatever new diet was out there to try, I researched until I found the right fit for me. Then I pushed forward and did it. No wishy, washy reasons why I couldn't do it. I just did it because I knew it was the right thing for me. Let's face it, I was finally ready to change. Ready and willing. I was ready to let go of all the reasons that I couldn't do it and grab onto the reasons I needed to do it. All the right reasons.

Sometimes a person can think too much about why he or she does things. Sometimes it really is better to just go ahead and do it. (Hence the famous Nike saying....) Dwelling too long on all the reasons you can't do something just gives you more time to come up with other reasons not to do it. So next time you know for sure that what you are doing is not working, close your eyes for a few minutes and try to picture the way you want it to be instead. If what you see is what you truly want deep in your gut, then go for it! Take a giant leap forward and hang on for dear life. Don't look back, no matter how much you may want to. There are great things ahead for you! All you have to do is know for sure that you deserve it.



Peace & Good Luck,

Laurie